Ebony
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Post by Ebony on Mar 7, 2006 7:33:58 GMT 1
Both my dad and my daughter overeat.
My dad won't stop at one or two plates, but eats 3 or 4. Then he makes himself something else directly after the meal, like bread and cheese. Then sometimes has dessert! He snacks between meals, and snacks before bed. He has low blood sugar and high BP so he needs to be careful of what he eats. He seems oblivious to his eating habits and whenever my mother gets on him about it, he makes jokes. Exercising is out of the question as he is to the point of not being able to walk at all.
My daughter also will not stop at one plate, but has 2 or 3. She also finishes her daughter's her plate, finishes whatever is left in the pans, & snacks all day long. My daughter knows she's overeating but can't/won't change her habits. She has started exercising 4-5 times a week, but she still overeats.
I am watching two people I love gaining unhealthy weight. Any suggestions?? herbs? supplements?
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Jeni
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Post by Jeni on Mar 7, 2006 11:31:48 GMT 1
Unfortunately as frustrating as it must be for you there is really nothing you can do apart from trying to educate them about eating healthily and exercising. They are both adults and the responsibility is ultimately theirs. Your daughter's started exercising and that is a great step and will certainly benefit her in helping to keep her weight down not to mention feeling better within herself, you might even notice that she eats less because of the exercise, give it a few weeks I'm sure you'll notice a difference in her. Do you ever cook for your dad and your daughter?
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Post by 1 on Mar 7, 2006 13:33:52 GMT 1
Hi Ebony,
sorry to hear about your Dad and your daughter. I don't know if there is anything you can do... maybe this will sound radical but sometimes that's the only way!
You said your Dad won't listen to anyone but is now so big that he can't walk. So that means he's too big to go and buy his own food, right? So maybe the person that 'feeds' him, in this case your Mum, should just put food on allocation and not cook as much as he wants. I know this will be very hard for both of them but it would work.
As for your daughter... tell her in very certain terms that if she goes on like that she might not live to see her child grow up. If that doesn't do the trick then I don't know. She's taken the first step and started exercising so that's a very good sign. Once she starts to physically feel the difference she'll find it easier to eat less. The paradox thing is that you feel fat when you eat loads of unhealthy stuff, it's the days when you feel slim that keep you going and make a difference. She'll get there... just keep offering support but don't nag.
There is a woman in my team at work and her daughter works here too. The Mum kept nagging the daughter about her weight and I told her loads of times that her daughter would start dieting once the nagging stops. It was hard for the Mum to keep quiet but believe it or not, her daughter has now started her diet.
Hope this helps, sorry it's so long!
Inghinn
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Post by inghinn on Mar 7, 2006 13:35:29 GMT 1
Sorry, this reply was from me... I didn't realise I wasn't logged in. Silly me!
Inghinn
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Ebony
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Post by Ebony on Mar 7, 2006 20:22:53 GMT 1
Thanks for your support and suggestions Hedge and Ing. I live 200 miles away so usually don't have a chance to cook for them. My son and sister are both vegetarians, and have tried cooking for them but neither thinks "their kind of food" is healthy enough since there's no meat, and my daughter doesn't like the taste of it. Ing, I guess I didn't explain myself - my dad isn't so large he can't walk. Hes crippled from late Polio syndrome, has had several back surgeries, had a mild stroke, that kind of thing. If he keeps on eating like he is, he just might grow large enough to add that to his health so he can't walk. I was there this week-end and you made a good point. My mum was nagging at him, and the more she nagged the more he ate. Maybe I should work on her attitude and then dad might slack off. I'm hoping that as my daughter exercises more she will stop eating so much and be able to discipline herself. I've not said anything to her. I've been there before and it is worse to be nagged about it. I'm just frustrated
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